So many people suffer from anxiety. This is due in part to not understanding the importance of limits, boundaries and knowing how to prioritize. You feel pulled to put in 120% at work to impress your boss. You feel pulled to spend more time with your family because they keep complaining that you are not present enough. You want to socialize more with your friends, enjoying their light-hearted banter. You feel pulled to spend more time exercising because you know it is healthy, but can’t seem to find the time with the pull of work and family. You want more downtown allowing you to pursue entertainment. You might stay in bed until noon on the weekends because you feel pulled to get more sleep. You want “delicious” food, even if you know that it may not be healthy. And where do all these pursuits (work, family, friends, downtime, eating, sleep, etc.) leave you time to learn? Learn to keep up in this ever-changing world, learn the purpose of your gift of life, learn how to be moral, learn what is true, learn to be better business man or friend or parent. Whatever your motivation and interest learning is essential.
However, you cannot not exclusively learn. You do need to eat, which requires the financial where withal (working). You do need to sleep, so that you are rested enough to concentrate on what you are doing. You do need to socialize, for humans are hardwired to interact.
The key here is finding the right balance. Just as some people may need more vitamin D, some people need to sleep more than others and some need to socialize more than others. However, you want to make sure that you optimize the quality of your pursuits so that you can get more of what you need from the pursuit. Here the vitamin analogy works as well, more of a vitamin than you need i.e. overdosing can be unhealthy. If you don’t feel rested from the sleep you are getting it may be quality, quantity or a combination. For more on sleep see my post “Sleep On It”. These principles hold true for all the areas of your life. Eating more than you should? Perhaps your foods are not nutritionally dense enough or you are confusing thirst for hunger? If these needs are not being met you will continue to feel hungry even after eating. This in turn will cost you time as you pursue more eating at the expense of some of your other interests mentioned above. Not rested or fortified enough? Your work performance and learning will suffer.
The word “moderation” gets thrown around a lot, but it can be misleading. Since different people have different needs the definition of “moderate” will differ.
Knowing what you need and just how much of it will help you prioritize and set limits for a well-balanced life. Some self-reflection and honesty are important here. What are your strengths? Talents and skills? Weaknesses? What are you spending your time on and why?
Is your time spent on hobbies, sleep, eating, work etc. necessary or avoidance of other less enticing responsibilities?
Make sure you are in charge of your life.